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Mingle

Super helpful social frame that I’ve been running with recently is to roll with an energy and mingle.

Mingling looks something like this.

You roll in to the spot, you say what’s up to the door guys, you give them some dap and make some small talk. You ask them how their night is going. You maybe offer a cig and see whether there are a lot of people coming tonight or if there is an event in the area or whether they have seen the new dancer at 1Oak.

When you’re inside you make sure to chat up anyone who is in your vicinity. You’re not looking to hook anyone, you’re looking to say what’s up and keep it pushing to the next person. If there’s a bit of conversational back and forth then great, but the idea is not to get in to a 10 minute heart to heart. Move on to the next.

Some good ways to run this.

The basic question. Unassuming.

“How is your night going?”

“Do you come here often?”

“Did you get your drinks already?”

Etc.

Situational commentary 

“You’re third wheel tonight”

“They’re getting it on”

Etc.

There’s also some other ones like breaking touch, glass cheers, wave, smile, other action oriented pieces that aren’t full on words to the air type.

A few benefits to this approach:

1. Easy social contact with anyone you want.

Way more straightforward then coming with some roundabout way to open up a clique. If you’re being social with everyone then it’s a straightforward proposition to just add another group to your conversation or to drop another line as you’re passing by.

2. Builds out your energy for the night

Especially early in the night it pays to go around and talk to a bunch of people. It gets the energy up and opens you out to be a more social person. There is something around social momentum that you can use to bounce from one person to another because you’re being quick and light on your feet and doing short-term but valuable interaction.

3. No risk

Something I’ve been playing with a lot more recently but the mingle approach lets you take any motives out the equation and build out any fun that you’re going to have through your more subtle back channel approach.

4. Multipurpose

This works on all kinds of groups. If there’s multiple chicks then you run the same. If there are guys then you run the same. Mostly they will pawn off the social one to you or they will all participate in the conversation. Then you can choose to bounce out of the group or you can apply to the next person in the group to work your way around.

This all around makes it way easier to get in to a social mood and to bring an enjoyable energy to the environment, which is something that you should cultivate. Makes it way more fun for you to hit the streets if you actually enjoy yourself and the people around you are also enjoying themselves.

Get out there.

How to Set Expectations

This is something that I’ve seen again and again with cats that are running in to issues in their interpersonal relationships. There is a single root cause, and it’s really messing stuff up for some people.

Not having expectations is a huge miss when you’re dealing with people, and especially when you’re dealing with girls.

Without expectations, there can’t be the kind of order you need to actually take the lead and run shit.

The good thing is that it’s an easy fix once you realize you’re missing them.

First, figure out very specifically what it is that you want.

Don’t start with some basic general shit, be super specific.

It’s not “I want a girl that is gonna treat me right.” That is basic, and about as far as most cats get in setting their expectations. You can see how that might spiral out of control pretty quickly.

The issue with those kinds of general expectations is that it leaves a lot of room for interpretation. Which means it leaves a lot of room for outcomes other than what you want. Which is not what you want to happen.

So the key when figuring that shit out is to be specific.

Second, you have to communicate your expectations to people. It’s really not enough to have an idea of what you want from someone, you actually have to let them know.

Luckily this isn’t particularly difficult. It can be as easy as saying “I expect…” and then filling in the blank.

It’s crazy how powerful this can be once you start voicing the things that you want out of people. They start rising to the occasion and going out of their way to fit in to the area where you’ve directed them.

The final part here is that you have to use some carrot and stick action to make sure that your expectations are being met.

If the chick is falling short, you have to let her know, which is really just a way of reinforcing your expectation.

Once again this is simple stuff. When people do what you want, you give them a bit of reward. When they don’t you don’t reward them.

It’s really crazy how simple this is. Can’t state that enough.

  1. Figure out your expectations
  2. Communicate them
  3. Enforce them

That’s it.

The issue is that cats are failing on one or many of these steps.

They don’t know what they want, so they have no idea how to communicate that and then they fail at enforcing anything because it’s unclear to all parties.

The remedy is to understand what you want, which means having standards. Communicating what you want, which means being able to articulate those standards. Then enforcing what you want, which means being alright with doling out a bit of reward or punishment when needed.

Work on setting some basic expectations in your life and you’ll be a lot happier for it.

Get out there.

Paris? C’Est Nul

Definitely do no go to Paris.

It’s probably one of the final places left that you can let yourself go. Let those feral parts out of yourself to explore something that is outside of your usual norms and the usual shackles that you wear voluntarily.

The city has always been like this. The Great American Fredrick Douglas went their to applause and packed venues, even as he would have hung in his home town.

Because of that, Paris gets it’s share of hate from AmeriKKKa. Really, all this, just a confirmation that staying out of the mainstream is where it’s at.

If you’re actually looking to tear up the city then just follow along.

Logistics

It starts at the airport, where if you’re coming in you’ll most like hit at CDG 2nd Terminal. Customs is easy and smooth with the Passport of your choice. It’s terrible cause you might actually want to say Bonjour to the cat at the border.

Helps to have a Paris made custom carry-on so you can skip all that baggage, so you can breeze through to the RER B and hop that to the city. If you’re smart you’ll cop a NaviGo from the ticket booth before you catch the train. It’s 25 euro for a week, and a bit more for a month for Zone 1-5. That will get you anywhere in Paris and the surrounding Banlieue.

Paris airport logistics mean that 30 minutes later you’ll land at Châtelet. The metro from there can take you anywhere in the city in less than 20 minutes. There are 20 Arrondissements in Paris. They go out in a spiral from the center of the city.

Easy logistics like this aren’t normal, and when you’re coming from a country that can’t even build a basic rail line that works it may just blow your mind a bit.

I prefer to stay in the 9eme or the 18eme, in Montmartre. It is well located in the city, and close to the spots to go out and the spots to see things. It’s got a small town feel and outside of the few tourist areas it is regular Paris speed, which means a unique blend of slow and fast life, high and low end.

For getting around you’re going to want to use your NaviGo to catch the Metro, so get to know your local stop and how to get where you’re going from there. Paris is super walkable, which is why it pays to post up in a solid hood. For the most part I’m able to get all the things I need, carnal or otherwise, a few short minutes from my door and without hopping on the metro. Late night, catch a car cause the metro is going to be closed, which is once again why it pays to have solid logistics.

Going Out

Paris has all the scenes you might want, and of course I was pitching my usual High-End blasting Low-End Theory moves, which were putting me at a lot of spots in the 18th, the 11th, and the Latin Quarter. I made good headway off a few spots around the Seine. If you’re looking for an early dinner, then don’t bother coming to Paris because it will not be your speed. There is none of the wack 6pm fare sub-par here. A lot of spots will be closed at that time. Crazy? Nah it’s just how things should actually work. You need the chef to prepare and the kitchen staff to be ready for your entrance. It’s not unusual to be starting out the night at 9, and kicking it at a big table with your crew until midnight before even starting in on the first course.

If you’re looking for a high-end spot then there are plenty to find, but avoid the Brasserie or Bistro on your local corner, which is basically just the hangout for locals. You want something that looks more like a hole in the wall that is packed with dresses and suits by 10pm.

It’s trivial to find this kind of spot in Paris, and it may be the city with the most high-end restaurants per square mile.

After dinner, you’re liable to be kicking it around chain-smoking out on the rooftop, but eventually you’ll figure out one of a few things to do.

There are a lot of kickback type joints going around, where you can lounge out, listen to tunes and smoke grits with the fly Parisian crowd. There are your typical club where all the tourists end up and you’ve got Top 40 hits. There’s underground spots where you’ll find cats pumping out beats and popping pills. If you’re connected, you can link up with a local group and there’s always people throwing parties at their flats and then making moves later in the night.

You need stamina to roll out in Paris because the night does not start for real until after 2 and you’ll keep going until the metro starts again in the morning.

This is another reason why Paris is not for the weak and can often steamroll cats who are not coming prepped and ready.

A lot of the up and coming places are over in the 11th by Bastille and around the Canal St. Martin, so go check that area out if you roll through. The Latin Quarter is also good for the lower key vibe and you’ll find a bunch of college aid kids out smoking until late in the bars and restos in that area. If you’re trying to hit up tourists in the mega-club scene (word of advice is that this is a huge waste of a Paris trip), then hit St. Michel or Le Champs and ask around. There’s plenty to do off those streets, but you might as well have stayed just hit Vegas if you were looking for cheap American plastic surgery.

Substances

Paris is a cosmopolitan city, and the youth are down with the culture, so there is plenty to be had. All stripes can get it in, just ask around and don’t be shady about it. Cats are usually throwing out around the main clubs. I’m not a huge fan of Paris tree, but throwing it in a spliff is the main way of partaking there so I don’t complain. I got my hands on some dope pops though that kept me up for three nights straight without issue, and that was definitely a good time, so don’t be afraid to partake.

Things to do

Way too much to name, obviously if it’s your first time no one is going to look down on you doing all the regular tourist shit. But if you’re trying to get in to the actual scene then make sure to check out the arts district, a Marché Aux Puces, and a few museums. Hit up some daytime activities around the Seine or the Canal (see a theme here), where you can pretty much lounge out in the sun and hit on any fly chick that is walking by with the offer of some of your spliff or a drink. Of course you’re going to chop it up and offer more. There’s really nothing wrong with posting up in the beautiful parks and kicking it and watching life go by. Paris also has a long history of just bumming around seeing the sights, what they call being a Flaneur, so that too is something worth exploring.

Girls

Les Femmes in Paris are some of the flyest in the world, bar none. You’ll see a lot of fly dressing types and it looks like you stepped out in to a Fashion Week every time you are out on the metro. There’s none of that bummy looking stuff that plays well in Middle-America. Here, the chicks dress to impress and know how to keep themselves wrapped up to the 9s in the latest style. That means sun-dresses, rompers and heels in the summer, and fly coats and jackets in the winter.

French girls also have a look to them and I’m the type to fall in love about five times a minute there. There is a big portion of first-generation French as well, so you’ve got your West African, North African, and East Asian contingents well represented.

Really no need to be shy, speaking up about being on a short trip is enough to cop some digits and set up some other time to meet. Hitting it off with a light drink, transitioning to dinner and then seeing where the night takes you two is the easy move and really it doesn’t need to get much more complicated.

Girls speak English, but really you’re going to want French because it’s a beautiful language and you’re going to miss a lot of the fun of kicking it with a French girl without spitting in her Langue Maternelle.

French guys tend to be fine setting you up with their friends if you seem like a chill dude who can hang, and they tend to spit hot fire at chicks in general. There is a big divide between the regular French guy who can pull, and the dumpy French dude who is hanging on with a group of girls but can’t make a move, so scope which is which and get in with the right group.

Typical French groups are mixed, so you need some maneuvering skills, but once you’re in, you’re in for good and you’ve got a line on whatever else the group is doing the rest of the night and probably the rest of the month.

Chicks don’t really have too much hang up around their sexuality, and know how to use it, and respect you for not acting like you don’t know that she’s attractive and that you both want it. They will test the fuck out of you to make sure, but those are all easy when you actually have the goods.

All that said, what’s a typical rundown look like for a day in the city of lights?

You roll out late morning to catch an espresso at the local cafe and hit up some business deals real quick before stowing your phone the rest of the day.

Go and cop some new suit fabric in the 7th and chop it up with the Tailor who is going to take in a few loose items for you before an important meeting later in the week.

Walk down to the Seine to people watch a bit, and smoke grits out by the water. Cop a few numbers from a group of French girls that are out after work and make plans to meet up later in the night.

Hit dinner with an associate and pull two other fine girls posted up at dinner to your table for a good time and wine pouring in abundance. Have one of the girls from earlier fall through to the spot so it’s a merry party. She’s got some friends who are throwing a kickback in the 18th, so you all head that way.

Chill and smoke and drink and party with your new friends, and make some moves on one of the other cute things that is trying to act uninterested at the spot.

Roll out to a club on the water with the crew, and try to decide between the two girls that are all feeling you and all fine with which ever you choose. Choose one (or both) and make those moves back to your spot as the sun is coming up.

Really Paris is the blueprint for the kind of interaction where you hook early and enjoy the rest of the long night with a fine girl that knows how to move and knows how to make you want her.

 

Database Selects

Here’s a powerful concept to leverage in your day to day.

You want to be able to select from the set of what’s presented from you in a way to maximize what you’re putting in and what you’re getting out. No use sending out a unspecified query because you will end up returning a bunch of unnecessary noise and that will keep you from getting in to what you want.

Instead, start being specific.

Some examples might be helpful to illustrate.

Maybe you put yourself in an environment that selects for large numbers of fly girls, with tattoos, that enjoy free expression and talking about Moon Phases while tripping off some engineered chemical. For good measure you can throw in some selects that make it easy for you to get a double digit return while still leaving time for some fun. Then maybe a select or two that gets your main kick it spot a central location for activity just this side of illicit.

That’s a complicated version.

Something simple is making your main haunt in the city someplace that attracts the kind of clientele that either Line Your Pockets or end up in your bed.

Eventually you can tune out all the noise and get a single query on life that is always what you would call peak experience.

Some mind bending and chemical engineering optional.

More Festival Digs

Continuing a few notes on the festival life because there seems to be a bit of confusion around, and it may make sense to answer some basic questions.

1. What kind of Stuff are all these folks on?

That’s going to change depending on the season and the event you’re posted at. At the very least you’re going to have all the typical floating around, which means some White and Green, mixed with some of your friend Molly. Then you’ve got designer stuff that some kid cooked up in a lab, tabs, every flavor of pill that is cut with something you probably don’t want to take, and stuff that is has more steps than the Tour Eiffel.

2. Where is the get down?

You probably shouldn’t roll to one of these if you don’t know answers to basic questions. But say you were to get air dropped in cold, cause you read the Bible and decide you’re out for a quick buck. Grab a copy of the schedule and figure out what kinds of acts will serve your serve best. Then book there, post up and make sure to chat up when you spark up. This is really simple stuff. Eventually you will have folks asking for the hookup cause they didn’t come prepared. Luckily you will have.

3. What’s good with the music scene?

If you’re in to 4 to the floor beats and drops then you will also be happy at the usual.

But here’s a funny thing. Cause festivals (with a few exceptions where you can catch your boy each and every year) cater to a upper-brow middle-class young White suburbanite kind of crowd, there are a lot of fire rap acts.

It’s one of those weird dichotomies in life. So you can catch acts like The 36 Chambers Crew themselves:

Is what it is. If you’re a fan of the music, you may be surprised to hear that the 18-year old white chick next to you might know the lyrics better than you and is throwing down all the explicatives.

That brings me to the final point.

4. What’s good with the fly chicks?

Here’s the deal. If you’re at a event with five figures, scaled down the age chain to accommodate at 18-25 crowd specifically, and throw in the unspoken activities, there’s not really any reason you shouldn’t be cleaning up. Toss this in with being a fine brother that has a height advantage and a smooth tongue. It’s only gotten easier, and I expect it to age like some Macallan.

What are the types. Once again depends on the specific crowd. But expect a lot on the fly side, most in minimal clothing, and an atmosphere tuned to pulling out emotion. Not to mention all the stimulus of a club environment, cranked to the 10th degree. It’s not really something to play around with.

Combine all that with handing out candy to strangers, which means a passive stream of good vibes that people are paying you to partake in. It’s almost not fair.

Straight from the Underground

While you’ll usually find me at the latest soft opening or hitting the lounge in a two-piece, one-button with a tie and a square, part of keeping on your toes and making sure you have Full Access to all that life has to offer is mixing it up and making sure to get your dose of the Other Side.

Occasionally that means taking a few days off the regular gig, loading up the truck with some of the crew, hitting the plug, coping a few stashes that will get you through the weekend, and then bouncing to a local festival.

We stumbled on these a while back, and have proven to be a ludicrous business that concentrates the demand in one area for a few days. Suitable for a captured audience, we jack the price and walk away with the bank to throw away on some other ventures.

The next level move here is not the festival itself. It’s the combination of professional and pleasure interests. These are kind of advanced moves because usually people feel the need to keep them separate. The pinnacle of combination that we’ve reached as society is Happy Hour, which is mostly wack and only useful for putting in time with the 9-5 crowd when you need to close some extra deals for the quarter or get an in at the company that is across the street.

Since we’ve moved past that in to a realm where most people don’t tread, there are some things that we’ve learned from long experience that may be useful to the entrepreneur working to make his mark at the local event space.

1 . Pick money

Figure out what you’re doing there and why. Since my first love is Green, and the second is Gold, followed by Fine Black Women, the main reason I’m ever at one of these things is to stack that cash. So of course that means the focus is business. Scope that and don’t loose sight of your reasons for being.

2.  Figure out your clientele

Ideally you have looked at the landscape or have a decent idea of where your customers are going to be kicking it. If not then you’re a few steps behind and probably want to get up on Game.

3. Make your pitch

Since we are Notorious like Biggie in the streets, we’ve got folks coming up to us to solicit, but when you are just starting out you’re going to have to make the First Step. A good way is with casual use and a quick intro to a “Connect” that is hanging around in the shadows.

4. Collect your earnings

The one con (and not the Big Shop that opened up down the street from my spot, no connection) to the festival deal is that there are too many opportunities to flash your cash and watch all the hard end scratch end up down the tubes. Get some discipline and bring your own drink cause that is a different kind of racket.

 

Sure Tings

So there’s something that most cats would benefit from figuring out early on in the Game when they start hitting the streets hard.

There are always going to be some girls that are just down, and recognizing these chicks from the rest, then capitalizing on it will automatically up your results.

I see this all the time when I’m out:

Guy is dancing on a girl or chatting her up and she is diggin it. Everything is right in that moment and she’s ready for him to go for it.

Thing is. Most cats do not make any moves.

Pushing for the action is the only way to actually get there. She is not going to take it there, you have to make things happen.

When you start to recognize which girls are down then you can figure out when to make the moves that you need to make. Spend less time hitting the books for the latest line to get her out the club and realize when she is about to walk out with you if you were to take her hand and hit the door.

Get out there.

Money Ball

Some cats approach this kinda thing with a statistical, analytical approach. That line of thinking has you filling out spreadsheets on how many of this and that you took down last week and how much you pulled in the week before.

That works well and great if you want to maintain. Stick to the things you are doing and keep pushing on. That also means staying flat-line, hitting the plateau. Might as well be dead.

Making choices based on past data is going to really fuck you up in the long term because you’ll end up only believing the things you have done in the past are possible. Recipe for zero growth.

Instead, you have to use your current experiences and look to what they would be like magnified in ways that you would enjoy way more than what you’ve got right now.

This is very powerful stuff. It’s less “How can I get a promotion next year” and more “Which of the competitors do I want to run next year.”

This ties a bit in with some other moves we’ve been talking about, but a few scales larger.

Think about this sometime and see what you can whip up.

 

Business as Usual

Every so often, because you’ve got a full social card, you will get asked out to a dinner that is more about Moving Numbers than Crunching Numbers.

You want to make sure to make room for these kinds of events. Luckily, they get booked early enough that you can pencil them in a few weeks in advance. It’s an advanced move here to make sure you’re booked for the upcoming weeks with these so that you have some convenient outs to dodge a dinner with a fly model chick and her wack friend that homegirl has been trying to set up.

Once you’ve got the something on the calendar, you’re going to want to put in a full day of deal making and capping ahead of your dinner so you are Peaking at the right time. This will involve scheduling some In-Persons, catching a Red Eye and going on No Sleep to a 8am Board Meeting to lock down a big contract. Then you could roll to serve up the Dominicana down the block from the spot you’re crashing who has been looking for the work. Then posting up since “you’ve got a bit of time on your hands” for a session. Then getting in some minor One on One action and crossing her up a few times before taking it to the Rack.

You’ll roll to your pad to check in and get Pieced Out. Drop in a custom fitted Dark Charcoal and Deep Purple tie and throw on some AEs. Knock back a few of the 12-year at the lounge down the street from your spot and put in some face time with another client who is a Regular there.

Don’t loose time talking business. Leave enough so that you can show up to the Event once it’s full. This is so you can hit the place with maximum effects. Get some intros to all the movers and shakers, make sure to drop seeds for later but have too many new people to meet.

Put everyone on ice for now as you make your way around. Get a drink in your hand. Preferably a Tempranillo. Make the rest of the rounds and get back to thank the host for the invite. Spend some time solidifying that relationship and making sure everything is good with the Account.

Roll back to some of the cards you dropped early and pick up anything you’ve got. Get in with a few Private Equity folk and some others that are looking in to Alternative Investments. Drop some knowledge about those topics and set up some other follow up meetings based on needs that one or two of the group have.

In a sense, events like these are compounding. You get the initial dividends of putting in face time with your group, but should also get some extra returns from any connections you make with friends of friends of friends. The benefit is that almost everyone is a Heavy in their own way, so you don’t have to waste time. The atmosphere is meant for Talking Shop, so come correct and expand the business is the MO.

After you make a few rounds, they’ll bring out the main courses, and you’ll cop your assigned seat. People take special care to mix up the tables, so you’ll likely end up next to even more business connects. This is on purpose to make sure the conversation keeps going. Extract the basic data from everyone about what they do, then start making connections.

The rest of the night should go in to a haze of wine and good conversation. At the end of the night, make sure to dap up your hosts and thank them for the good party. This will get you on the list for the next one. Do any last follow ups that you need to with the stragglers. If there happens to be a fly girl or two left then of course you will offer to bounce to the bar you’ve got on lock down the street. That is another story, for another day.

Glass Flows

Something interesting to try out. Layering in a bit of suggestive language. Really not that hard in practice. Flipping every day things with just the right tone to push the envelope.

Quick example. Posted up at a table. Somehow ended up there after rolling through the spot and peeping some of the crew. They were kicking it with some cat and his crew. There’s some folks I’ve seen here and there, but I end up pitching a lil curly headed shawty who is new to my eyes.

We get to talking about Cash and Favors with some other business twists. She’s in Finance so I’m vibing off of that and busting on her about being good at Math.

My crew is rolling out to the next spot so I grab the digits and say “We should get together soon.” I’m the picture of innocence itself. She says she would like that. I’ve got the follow ups, “Let’s do it later next week, I’ll be Out of Town until then.”

When I’m back in town it goes down like I laid out.

Try this out sometime.

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by Black Caesar