Caesar Is Black

Dope Game in the Dope Game

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Tokyo Pros and Cons

Pros

Indoor smokes at clubs and a lot of bars.

Fly shopping districts. High-end and low-end. Copped some good stuff for rolling out backdoors in the early morning on the low.

7am close times. Not everywhere, but plenty of stuff to get in to past sunup.

Zen gardens. Self explanatory for when you need a break from trafficking international.

Fresh fish.

Transit system on point.

Curious locals.

Fine mixed chicks when you can find them. Don’t ask where I found them because I won’t be telling.

Fine locals.

Style and swag. Stole enough ideas to last me through the winter here stateside. Street and business too. The suits the worker drones rock are all good except they’re universally missing a square to round things out. Easy fix. Pinstripes are coming in to my winter wardrobe for sure.

Working girls. Check.

Cons

Can’t think of any.

There was Bad English all around. Which I’m fine with, my Japanese is worse. I’m a quick learner though so I picked up a few phrases. You don’t need any language skills to chop it up if you know what you’re doing.

Look for Tokyo to be back in the headlines soon enough.

Long Lines in Tokyo

In the course of a life well lived, you’re going to reach some points where the only way out is through.

Around this way you know that I’m a heavy advocate of long flights and long lights.

So there is always going to be a case where you wake up to roll off a plane and have to hit the ground running because you’ve switch 6 time zones to land in the middle of a night out with the homies.

This was one of those nights. I had fallen asleep halfway through the flight over after downing a few whiskeys and was just now waking up to a spliff on a rooftop in Roppongi. Needless to say we were rolling hot.

It took me a bit to get my bearings, but nothing a few hits couldn’t fix. I’m just along for the ride on this trip, and delegating all plans to the ground team. The homies have been running here for a minute and have got the city dialed in. One perk of cultivating an international network is that you can drop in to any city and be in the mix without issue.

We head out and hit the night. It’s late but still early goings. Rain from earlier giving the streets neon reflections. Hopping the train, the mix is business and pleasure. You’ve got the suits headed home, and the night crew headed out. Two worlds passing each other briefly in the early night.

Hit the door and get pushed around the line. Up the stairs in Shibuya and we’re in the middle of it all. It’s packed in the spot. Someone hands me a shot and then another. I buy a round, we’re all kicking it and having a good time. Throwing back on old times when we were younger and more reckless.

A minx and her friend roll by and get pulled in to the conversation. They’re with a group over there, we’re with a group over here, eventually everyone is chopping it up and I’m vibing with a shorty. Her English is bad and my Japanese is nonexistent, but we’re making it work. She’s on the edge of bad, but trying to hide it. No fronting with me though and eventually I get that side out of her.

My crew is bout to bounce so I grab her digits and tell her we are headed back to Roppongi. If she ends up that way, she is always welcome to fall through.

It’s later but still early. We fuck around outside the club smoking grits, then hit a late night ramen spot. Our group is on one and the energy is contagious. We pick up some expats and everyone heads out to the next spot. Somehow cop a cab cross city and hop out to head down to the new club. We roll down to the basement and place is packed again. More shots come our way. Host posts us up at a table.

The expat girls wander off and a group of locals replaces them. Everyone wants to know where we are from and what we’re doing here. The question on everyone’s mind is how the gaijin are this connected.

I get the ear of another girl. This time the English is better. She’s seen my side of the world before, open to new experiences. This one is actual trouble and doesn’t hide it.

There are offers of some substance, and the home boy rounds up the crew and the night’s additions and we head back to the spot. We’re in our element at this point. It’s back to old times, everything running together on the glass table top of the apartment.

Shawty from Shibuya hits my line. She’s in the area and wants to know if we’re still out. Not out, but still up. She gets the invite back to the spot. Her and her friend roll through. Nothing going on seems to surprise them, so they get lined up and join in.

People start to drop off. The sun is coming up as the rest of the crew pairs off or dips out to pick up on some pre-work.

Roll another spliff and split it the last line. Then pick up business where it left off.

Bar Class

Throwing up some reps recently and getting dialed in on some easy ways to work a bar.

Picture. Low-key spot, few people milling around, not much music.

Post up at the bar. Chat the bar staff. Get some energy going. Keep the bar tender around you, and anyone else coming up for a drink is going to need to come in next door. Chop it up a bit off any random thing, and then you can move on to the next as it suits you.

Medium-level-busy spot and you’ve got some options. Posting up is still a good move. Just get somewhere in the middle of the bar, or off a corner. You want people to be cycling by as they get their drinks and bounce out. Always stay talking. You want your section to be jumping with you as the center of things (not necessarily the center of attention, just the center of the action). Bonus to leave some basic space for people to come grab a drink. This kind of situation will get you a bunch of new people to talk to and you can add to your little group when someone is chill enough to warrant it.

Super-packed spot with the music blasting out, just move down the bar. I’ll usually throw out some basic question like “are you still waiting for your drink” and use that to kick something off. Move off from the bar if things are moving nicely.

Regardless, you’re going to want a constant cycle of ins and outs. Posted at the bar and using the natural flow of the spot to bring you new folks to chat up is a money move.

Atlanta Dead Days

A while back I dropped the ATL Step by Step, which gave you the undoctored dope on a basic night out in the A.

After some more time spent in the City in the Trees (talking both senses of the word), you’re going to want to avoid some nights.

Namely, Tuesday and Wednesday.

Monday, you’ve always got Magic City to fall back on. I’ve been preferring the more low key nights at that joint but you can’t go wrong with that move.

Thursday, you’ve got any of a dozen places popping off and some can get some light work at any dinner spot you’ve got locked before hitting heavier bags out in any district.

Friday and Saturday, same shit just another day. Same spots will pop off just with more cats. Get in with a few promos and staff to skip lines. If you’ve been playing in the Big Leagues then working a door in ATL will be of no issue.

Sunday, after hours spots outside the beltway do nice in the late night.

Basically you can go out any night except Tuesday or Wednesday. Both of those nights are mad wack as far as nightlife is concerned. A few places try to open and get a total of 4 people.

Luckily there is a house party and underground scene that low key goes off during the down days, so you can hold yourself over with that.

The good news for the dead days is that if you’re running a few plays, you can set up a dinner and not expect to run in to anyone checking for you.

Otherwise Tuesday, it’s better to order in and have the off duty you found enjoying the installation last week at Opera come through to give you a back rub.

Wednesday, hit up the home girl you ran in to at Ponce City and grab some dinner close to her spot.

 

Three Keys

Have had the chance to put in a bunch of reps in new places lately and that always means trying out some new this and that.

After running in to some older stuff by a Dallas cat and adopting a bit of the framework it’s boiled down to running through this mostly in order…

– No judgement
– Sex
– Keeping secrets

Sometimes these things switch up but it’s all mostly related. I’m messing around with whether stories or just straight talking is better for framing these but playing it by ear has been straight venom.

This has also lead to heavy opening up during the postgame show.

The thing is that these can be put on basically any convo topic which is just mostly making some association and tying it back to a relevant experience.

It’s also not something that can come out your neck either. Incongruity would be deadly on it, going against the principles of the whole thing.

It’s been turning up results to say the least.

They really seem to need it because the response very solid and has more or less expressed the sentiment of a very desired release.

A quick illustration of the point.

Rolling out after a solid day of wheeling and dealing. Of course some stuff had closed and I was on the road so there was a celebration to be had. I’m in good spirits.

Head to a spot I’ve posted at before but it’s the middle of the week so it’s a coin toss as to what the energy will be. Roll up and it’s a low key night. People, but not packed and perfect for the plans I had.

Post at the bar with some Rye and start talking out the side of my mouth like always. There’s some good banter with the group next to me, they are fun and interested in where I’m from. I mingle and enjoy the conversation.

I catch eyes with a fly chick as she comes in. The feeling is mutual attraction. I keep up the conversation and a few minutes later she is at the bar ordering a drink.

I ask her how the night is going.

Turns out she’s there with friends. Her roommate is taking a girl home for the night. No Judgement.

She explains she’s not really in to that. Maybe it just wasn’t the right one for her. I get it. I’m in to sex with women. Particularly fly ones like herself that know how to let themselves go when they find something they want.

I asked if it was drama because word got around. Of course it was. Keeping secrets is important.

We order more drinks and the convo goes deeper. Eventually she suggests we head back to my spot after the round.

Say No To Yes Men

Major key to success: saying no to the yes men.

A lot of people that trip up, especially once they get a bit of success, are the ones that surround themselves with people that never challenge them.

So instead of your crew telling you that the new business move you’re thinking of is going to be complete shit, they tell you that it’s a great idea and to throw your money in it.

At the end all y’all looking stupid.

If all you ever got in your circle is a bunch of cats that are gassing you up, no one is doing anyone any favors.

Instead, you want to cultivate reasonable dissent from the people around you.

That way, when you start taking wrong turns, someone will call you out and not just let you fall off.

This is also why you want a girl around that is willing to point out your flaws.

Women are great at this by the way, and a girl that knows you also knows how to stick a knife between your ribs.

That is a blessing.

Moral of the story is to avoid people that are going to blow smoke up your ass because you’re too good for them.

Instead, keep people around that will push you to improve.

Calls

Here’s why I think CALLS are better for these things and also why I use calls on any number I cop and also why I will always tell a girl “I will call you later this week” or text her something like that.

Especially if you’re coping a number from a quick interaction (and I’m thinking this also applies to online but I don’t do that so wouldn’t know) she needs to INVEST in you for her to want to come out.

Otherwise it’s just another number and even if she’s interested if she’s in high demand socially, her friends, work, other dudes, the latest episode off Netflix, and just about anything else is going to be more important than the guy she hasn’t met who is a social UNKNOWN.

So when I do get digits I will tell her to EXPECT a call, which is a bridge from when we first hit off and some future time that builds anticipation.

Then I will CALL her when I have down time. Answering a CALL is a lot more investment on her part than answering a text. It’s an UNDEFINED amount of time, she has to think on her feet, it’s way more emotionally stimulating than a text, etc. etc.

That’s when I will also probe her schedule and figure out when is a good time to put her in my schedule. That can all happen over the phone in about 5 minutes, and I can actually feel her out and figure out where she is in the buying process.

So now that you’ve talked on the phone and actually set a general time she is more invested in meeting up (she spent time on the phone, you were funny and good personality so now she’s curious, you got her schedule and figured out a time that works for her and you, etc.).

For girls that don’t answer, I leave a quick message and tell them to hit me back. Her calling me back is once again an INVESTMENT as she’s got to take time and do all that. A girl that doesn’t bother to CALL you back is the same girl that will text you back and then flake.

Girls that are responsive to CALLS and I can tell are more interested in kicking it get more priority to REWARD their interest. Just like she’s rewarded by an interesting convo when she answers my call.

I also don’t care about getting a girl on the phone a few times before I get her out. If she is busy that week or the times she’s throwing out don’t work for me I will let her know that I’m busy but I will CALL her again later on next week (cue cycle of anticipation and further investment).

Once we’ve got a time set, I will tell her that I will hit her up later to let her know that it is still on.

Another subtle thing is that I don’t put any of the pressure on her to meet up. I find out when she is free, I suggest a time that works, all she has to do is say yes. I’m pacing the whole thing and I take the ground of confirming and setting up a good experience that works with where I will be that day and what I want to do. Then I will let her know later on the day of that I am running late or whatever to confirm that she is still down.

If a girl is super responsive and in to me then I may text her if I’ve got some time to think about it. But if a date is set then I will usually just wait to rap at her IN PERSON and just text to confirm or send her directions.

If I’m just trying to get a girl out, then I will tell her tag along to whatever I’m doing that day. Since that’s just an offer, it’s no big deal if she doesn’t show or has other stuff to do and I don’t get angry if they don’t show.

I just CALL them later and set something up if I want to see her for real.

Mingle

Super helpful social frame that I’ve been running with recently is to roll with an energy and mingle.

Mingling looks something like this.

You roll in to the spot, you say what’s up to the door guys, you give them some dap and make some small talk. You ask them how their night is going. You maybe offer a cig and see whether there are a lot of people coming tonight or if there is an event in the area or whether they have seen the new dancer at 1Oak.

When you’re inside you make sure to chat up anyone who is in your vicinity. You’re not looking to hook anyone, you’re looking to say what’s up and keep it pushing to the next person. If there’s a bit of conversational back and forth then great, but the idea is not to get in to a 10 minute heart to heart. Move on to the next.

Some good ways to run this.

The basic question. Unassuming.

“How is your night going?”

“Do you come here often?”

“Did you get your drinks already?”

Etc.

Situational commentary 

“You’re third wheel tonight”

“They’re getting it on”

Etc.

There’s also some other ones like breaking touch, glass cheers, wave, smile, other action oriented pieces that aren’t full on words to the air type.

A few benefits to this approach:

1. Easy social contact with anyone you want.

Way more straightforward then coming with some roundabout way to open up a clique. If you’re being social with everyone then it’s a straightforward proposition to just add another group to your conversation or to drop another line as you’re passing by.

2. Builds out your energy for the night

Especially early in the night it pays to go around and talk to a bunch of people. It gets the energy up and opens you out to be a more social person. There is something around social momentum that you can use to bounce from one person to another because you’re being quick and light on your feet and doing short-term but valuable interaction.

3. No risk

Something I’ve been playing with a lot more recently but the mingle approach lets you take any motives out the equation and build out any fun that you’re going to have through your more subtle back channel approach.

4. Multipurpose

This works on all kinds of groups. If there’s multiple chicks then you run the same. If there are guys then you run the same. Mostly they will pawn off the social one to you or they will all participate in the conversation. Then you can choose to bounce out of the group or you can apply to the next person in the group to work your way around.

This all around makes it way easier to get in to a social mood and to bring an enjoyable energy to the environment, which is something that you should cultivate. Makes it way more fun for you to hit the streets if you actually enjoy yourself and the people around you are also enjoying themselves.

Get out there.

How to Set Expectations

This is something that I’ve seen again and again with cats that are running in to issues in their interpersonal relationships. There is a single root cause, and it’s really messing stuff up for some people.

Not having expectations is a huge miss when you’re dealing with people, and especially when you’re dealing with girls.

Without expectations, there can’t be the kind of order you need to actually take the lead and run shit.

The good thing is that it’s an easy fix once you realize you’re missing them.

First, figure out very specifically what it is that you want.

Don’t start with some basic general shit, be super specific.

It’s not “I want a girl that is gonna treat me right.” That is basic, and about as far as most cats get in setting their expectations. You can see how that might spiral out of control pretty quickly.

The issue with those kinds of general expectations is that it leaves a lot of room for interpretation. Which means it leaves a lot of room for outcomes other than what you want. Which is not what you want to happen.

So the key when figuring that shit out is to be specific.

Second, you have to communicate your expectations to people. It’s really not enough to have an idea of what you want from someone, you actually have to let them know.

Luckily this isn’t particularly difficult. It can be as easy as saying “I expect…” and then filling in the blank.

It’s crazy how powerful this can be once you start voicing the things that you want out of people. They start rising to the occasion and going out of their way to fit in to the area where you’ve directed them.

The final part here is that you have to use some carrot and stick action to make sure that your expectations are being met.

If the chick is falling short, you have to let her know, which is really just a way of reinforcing your expectation.

Once again this is simple stuff. When people do what you want, you give them a bit of reward. When they don’t you don’t reward them.

It’s really crazy how simple this is. Can’t state that enough.

  1. Figure out your expectations
  2. Communicate them
  3. Enforce them

That’s it.

The issue is that cats are failing on one or many of these steps.

They don’t know what they want, so they have no idea how to communicate that and then they fail at enforcing anything because it’s unclear to all parties.

The remedy is to understand what you want, which means having standards. Communicating what you want, which means being able to articulate those standards. Then enforcing what you want, which means being alright with doling out a bit of reward or punishment when needed.

Work on setting some basic expectations in your life and you’ll be a lot happier for it.

Get out there.

Paris? C’Est Nul

Definitely do no go to Paris.

It’s probably one of the final places left that you can let yourself go. Let those feral parts out of yourself to explore something that is outside of your usual norms and the usual shackles that you wear voluntarily.

The city has always been like this. The Great American Fredrick Douglas went their to applause and packed venues, even as he would have hung in his home town.

Because of that, Paris gets it’s share of hate from AmeriKKKa. Really, all this, just a confirmation that staying out of the mainstream is where it’s at.

If you’re actually looking to tear up the city then just follow along.

Logistics

It starts at the airport, where if you’re coming in you’ll most like hit at CDG 2nd Terminal. Customs is easy and smooth with the Passport of your choice. It’s terrible cause you might actually want to say Bonjour to the cat at the border.

Helps to have a Paris made custom carry-on so you can skip all that baggage, so you can breeze through to the RER B and hop that to the city. If you’re smart you’ll cop a NaviGo from the ticket booth before you catch the train. It’s 25 euro for a week, and a bit more for a month for Zone 1-5. That will get you anywhere in Paris and the surrounding Banlieue.

Paris airport logistics mean that 30 minutes later you’ll land at Châtelet. The metro from there can take you anywhere in the city in less than 20 minutes. There are 20 Arrondissements in Paris. They go out in a spiral from the center of the city.

Easy logistics like this aren’t normal, and when you’re coming from a country that can’t even build a basic rail line that works it may just blow your mind a bit.

I prefer to stay in the 9eme or the 18eme, in Montmartre. It is well located in the city, and close to the spots to go out and the spots to see things. It’s got a small town feel and outside of the few tourist areas it is regular Paris speed, which means a unique blend of slow and fast life, high and low end.

For getting around you’re going to want to use your NaviGo to catch the Metro, so get to know your local stop and how to get where you’re going from there. Paris is super walkable, which is why it pays to post up in a solid hood. For the most part I’m able to get all the things I need, carnal or otherwise, a few short minutes from my door and without hopping on the metro. Late night, catch a car cause the metro is going to be closed, which is once again why it pays to have solid logistics.

Going Out

Paris has all the scenes you might want, and of course I was pitching my usual High-End blasting Low-End Theory moves, which were putting me at a lot of spots in the 18th, the 11th, and the Latin Quarter. I made good headway off a few spots around the Seine. If you’re looking for an early dinner, then don’t bother coming to Paris because it will not be your speed. There is none of the wack 6pm fare sub-par here. A lot of spots will be closed at that time. Crazy? Nah it’s just how things should actually work. You need the chef to prepare and the kitchen staff to be ready for your entrance. It’s not unusual to be starting out the night at 9, and kicking it at a big table with your crew until midnight before even starting in on the first course.

If you’re looking for a high-end spot then there are plenty to find, but avoid the Brasserie or Bistro on your local corner, which is basically just the hangout for locals. You want something that looks more like a hole in the wall that is packed with dresses and suits by 10pm.

It’s trivial to find this kind of spot in Paris, and it may be the city with the most high-end restaurants per square mile.

After dinner, you’re liable to be kicking it around chain-smoking out on the rooftop, but eventually you’ll figure out one of a few things to do.

There are a lot of kickback type joints going around, where you can lounge out, listen to tunes and smoke grits with the fly Parisian crowd. There are your typical club where all the tourists end up and you’ve got Top 40 hits. There’s underground spots where you’ll find cats pumping out beats and popping pills. If you’re connected, you can link up with a local group and there’s always people throwing parties at their flats and then making moves later in the night.

You need stamina to roll out in Paris because the night does not start for real until after 2 and you’ll keep going until the metro starts again in the morning.

This is another reason why Paris is not for the weak and can often steamroll cats who are not coming prepped and ready.

A lot of the up and coming places are over in the 11th by Bastille and around the Canal St. Martin, so go check that area out if you roll through. The Latin Quarter is also good for the lower key vibe and you’ll find a bunch of college aid kids out smoking until late in the bars and restos in that area. If you’re trying to hit up tourists in the mega-club scene (word of advice is that this is a huge waste of a Paris trip), then hit St. Michel or Le Champs and ask around. There’s plenty to do off those streets, but you might as well have stayed just hit Vegas if you were looking for cheap American plastic surgery.

Substances

Paris is a cosmopolitan city, and the youth are down with the culture, so there is plenty to be had. All stripes can get it in, just ask around and don’t be shady about it. Cats are usually throwing out around the main clubs. I’m not a huge fan of Paris tree, but throwing it in a spliff is the main way of partaking there so I don’t complain. I got my hands on some dope pops though that kept me up for three nights straight without issue, and that was definitely a good time, so don’t be afraid to partake.

Things to do

Way too much to name, obviously if it’s your first time no one is going to look down on you doing all the regular tourist shit. But if you’re trying to get in to the actual scene then make sure to check out the arts district, a Marché Aux Puces, and a few museums. Hit up some daytime activities around the Seine or the Canal (see a theme here), where you can pretty much lounge out in the sun and hit on any fly chick that is walking by with the offer of some of your spliff or a drink. Of course you’re going to chop it up and offer more. There’s really nothing wrong with posting up in the beautiful parks and kicking it and watching life go by. Paris also has a long history of just bumming around seeing the sights, what they call being a Flaneur, so that too is something worth exploring.

Girls

Les Femmes in Paris are some of the flyest in the world, bar none. You’ll see a lot of fly dressing types and it looks like you stepped out in to a Fashion Week every time you are out on the metro. There’s none of that bummy looking stuff that plays well in Middle-America. Here, the chicks dress to impress and know how to keep themselves wrapped up to the 9s in the latest style. That means sun-dresses, rompers and heels in the summer, and fly coats and jackets in the winter.

French girls also have a look to them and I’m the type to fall in love about five times a minute there. There is a big portion of first-generation French as well, so you’ve got your West African, North African, and East Asian contingents well represented.

Really no need to be shy, speaking up about being on a short trip is enough to cop some digits and set up some other time to meet. Hitting it off with a light drink, transitioning to dinner and then seeing where the night takes you two is the easy move and really it doesn’t need to get much more complicated.

Girls speak English, but really you’re going to want French because it’s a beautiful language and you’re going to miss a lot of the fun of kicking it with a French girl without spitting in her Langue Maternelle.

French guys tend to be fine setting you up with their friends if you seem like a chill dude who can hang, and they tend to spit hot fire at chicks in general. There is a big divide between the regular French guy who can pull, and the dumpy French dude who is hanging on with a group of girls but can’t make a move, so scope which is which and get in with the right group.

Typical French groups are mixed, so you need some maneuvering skills, but once you’re in, you’re in for good and you’ve got a line on whatever else the group is doing the rest of the night and probably the rest of the month.

Chicks don’t really have too much hang up around their sexuality, and know how to use it, and respect you for not acting like you don’t know that she’s attractive and that you both want it. They will test the fuck out of you to make sure, but those are all easy when you actually have the goods.

All that said, what’s a typical rundown look like for a day in the city of lights?

You roll out late morning to catch an espresso at the local cafe and hit up some business deals real quick before stowing your phone the rest of the day.

Go and cop some new suit fabric in the 7th and chop it up with the Tailor who is going to take in a few loose items for you before an important meeting later in the week.

Walk down to the Seine to people watch a bit, and smoke grits out by the water. Cop a few numbers from a group of French girls that are out after work and make plans to meet up later in the night.

Hit dinner with an associate and pull two other fine girls posted up at dinner to your table for a good time and wine pouring in abundance. Have one of the girls from earlier fall through to the spot so it’s a merry party. She’s got some friends who are throwing a kickback in the 18th, so you all head that way.

Chill and smoke and drink and party with your new friends, and make some moves on one of the other cute things that is trying to act uninterested at the spot.

Roll out to a club on the water with the crew, and try to decide between the two girls that are all feeling you and all fine with which ever you choose. Choose one (or both) and make those moves back to your spot as the sun is coming up.

Really Paris is the blueprint for the kind of interaction where you hook early and enjoy the rest of the long night with a fine girl that knows how to move and knows how to make you want her.

 

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by Black Caesar